Start with bismillah.

Ask: "What is the difference between being assertive and being aggressive?"

Watch the Smile and Learn video Conflict Resolution for Children.

Now listen to the ayah together in the app, with the translation. Ask: "What did people argue about?"

Each child keeps one wonder question, for example: "Why argue with someone who saw it themselves?" Younger children can draw theirs.

Find it in the mushaf: Surah An-Najm is surah 53. Find ayah 12. The key word atumarunahu means will you argue with him. People who had seen nothing argued with the one who had seen. That makes little sense. We can learn to listen calmly, ask good questions and accept the truth when we hear it.

Fact: What are calm, assertive ways to share a different opinion?

Ages 5–8: Calm voice. Practise saying "I see it differently" in a calm voice.

Ages 9–12: Good questions. Write three respectful questions you could ask instead of arguing.

Finish with: "I found that being assertive means ___."

Talk together:

• Why do people argue about things they haven't seen?
• Which name of Allah does this remind you of?
• How can we disagree without being rude?
• When should we stop arguing and accept the truth?
• What would you like to ask about this ayah?

Make a small plan: "This week, I will ask a question instead of arguing back."

• Ask instead of arguing.
• Practise a calm voice.
• Share good questions.
• Next time: the next ayah (53:13) says he saw him another time. Explore it together!

Action: Ask a question instead of arguing back.