Start with bismillah.

Ask: "Can the way you say something matter as much as what you say?"

Watch the Mufti Menk video Etiquettes of Speaking.

Now listen to the ayah together in the app, with the translation. Ask: "How should they speak?"

Each child keeps one wonder question, for example: "What makes speech dignified?" Younger children can draw theirs.

Find it in the mushaf: Surah Al-Ahzab is surah 33. Find ayah 32. The key words qawlan ma'rufa mean decent, proper speech. The Prophet's wives were given special status and were told to speak clearly, respectfully and with dignity. Good speech is honest, polite and appropriate for the situation. This is a lesson for every believer.

Fact: Which ayah in Surah Al-Isra tells us to say what is best?

Ages 5–8: Tone game. Say "please pass the bread" in a rude, a silly and a polite voice. Which works best?

Ages 9–12: Speech rules. Write five rules for good speech from the Quran.

Finish with: "I found that it is ayah ___ of Al-Isra."

Talk together:

• Why does tone matter?
• Which name of Allah does this remind you of?
• How do you speak to elders?
• What words do you want to use more?
• What would you like to ask about this ayah?

Make a small plan: "This week, I will speak politely even when I am upset."

• Speak politely when upset.
• Play the tone game.
• Share speech rules.
• Next time: the next ayah (33:33) is about prayer, charity and purity. Explore it together!

Action: Speak politely even when you are upset.